I don’t know exactly when I wrote this song, but It’s one of the only ones that I wrote on my electric guitar. Here’s the first recording of the song when I performed it at the CanyonFolk House Concerts Open Mic in Crest 2 years ago! (Listen how everyone is talking at the beginning and then gets quiet… 
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And here’s what it sounded like on the new album:
This song came out of pure emotion. One of my best friends let me know that she was in love with me after a few years of knowing each other. I was blown away, because I had no clue. I remember sitting upstairs at the church that I had been working at, and was absolutely baffled by the situation, pulled out my Telecaster, and wrote this bluesy number before a band practice.
I’ve been told that it’s the song that people “Love to hate” cause it’s something most people have gone through. The whole idea of loving someone, but not “like that”…. is a tough one. Life would be so much easier sometimes if you could just choose who you want to love… if your head and your heart could both say, “This is a quality person. They would make you happy.” But nope. Sometimes. no matter what you do, that “thing” just “isn’t there”. And that’s what this song deals with.
When we recorded it, we took out the second verse and went straight for the bridge. That’s not a usual music decision, as most songs consist of a first verse, chorus, second verse, chorus, bridge, chorus, but Jeff and I really dug the vibe with this one.
It’s one of my favorite takes on the new record. 
There ya go.
Apparently, I’m writing one word paragraphs now.
But it’s 5:14am… what do you expect.
How come there is never any allergy medicine when you really need it? sigh….
-j
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I Can’t Be Your Man
© 2010
Written by Josh Damigo
Produced, Recorded & Mixed by Jeff Berkley
Mastered By Gavin Lurssen and Rueben Cohen
Drums – Brian “Nucci” Cantrell
Bass – Kory McAfee
Piano – John Foltz
Acoustic & Electric Guitars – Jeff Berkley
Hammond Organ – Ben Moore
Lead Guitar – Mark Huls
Backing Vocal – Lisa Sanders & Brown Sugar
Vocal – Josh Damigo
Baby don’t you worry
baby don’t you cry
Don’t act like you haven’t known
This for a while
Girl we both know
I’m just not what you need
Baby, oh baby
Don’t make a scene
You need somebody
Who will treat you right
And baby oh Baby, you know
That’s not me.
Cause I Could be your lover
I could be your friend
I could hold you near me
Take you by your hand
I could kiss your lips
Be your biggest fan
Baby you know I could do all these things
But I can’t be your man
Your mama warned you
About a street rat like me
Who’s willing to hold you
But the first one to leave
You should have listened
To all of your friends
When they said, When they said
That I’d leave
Cause that’s what I did
